Growing up, being the eldest child, I am used to taking care of my younger brother. I moved to Austria with my father and my brother, then I was automatically told to take care of my father and brother. Then I became a people pleaser. I thought being a people pleaser, my parents would love me more. I was seeking for love from my parents. And which child would not seek for love from the parents. It is not after I let my parents mingled in my marriage and after a few years of self-reflection, I realized the people pleaser in me overtook my life. I made lots of choices, not because that was the right one for my life. I made the choices, because I craved love from my parents. I realized that the only person that I would need to please is myself. I need to watch out for my own life and if I have the capacity left to help others, then I should. But I should really spend more time being myself and not living a version of pleasing others.
Be yourself,
Shih-Ying